Why do men prefer low-maintanence women?

Many of us do prefer women who are easier to get along with. The reason is simple - life is already tough enough, who doesn't want to come home and just relax?

A girlfriend who doesn't sweat the small stuff doesn't nitpick over little things, and understands that we occasionally need our own space and time. It's much less stressful and more comfortable to be with someone like that.

Don't get me wrong, we also enjoy deep conversations. But if we have to rack our brains every day trying to guess what she's thinking or what she wants, that's just too exhausting.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

I asked my boyfriends, and he said:

So yeah, a woman who's easygoing, independent, and doesn't need us to revolve around her 24/7 is very attractive to us. Of course, this doesn't mean we're unwilling to put in effort. We just hope the effort and reward are proportional.

As a man, I can say this:

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Why do men prefer low-maintanence women?

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